ANXIETY & PERFECTIONISM THERAPY
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Anxiety can make it difficult to feel fully present in your own life. Your mind may constantly scan for what could go wrong, replay conversations, anticipate other people’s needs, or search for the next thing that needs to be fixed. You may feel restless, tense, or overwhelmed even when nothing is obviously wrong.
For some people, anxiety looks less like fear and more like perfectionism, overthinking, people-pleasing, overworking, or an ongoing need to stay in control. You may be highly capable and outwardly successful while internally feeling exhausted, self-critical, or unable to truly relax.
These patterns often develop in context. Early relationships, attachment experiences, family expectations, chronic stress, or environments where you learned to anticipate others’ needs can shape how you respond to uncertainty, mistakes, conflict, and vulnerability. What once helped you feel prepared, connected, or in control may now leave you caught in cycles of worry, self-doubt, and overfunctioning.
In therapy, we approach anxiety with curiosity rather than judgment. Together, we explore what your anxiety is responding to, how it shows up in your body and relationships, and what you may be needing beneath the worry or pressure. A relational, somatic, and attachment-focused approach can help you understand these patterns while creating more room for choice, flexibility, and self-trust.
We may also explore the parts of you that strive, anticipate, please, criticize, or try to keep everything under control. Rather than trying to eliminate these responses, we work to understand what they are trying to protect and develop new ways of responding to yourself and the world.
Over time, therapy can help you tolerate uncertainty without immediately needing to solve it, soften the pressure to get everything right, and develop a more compassionate relationship with yourself. The goal isn't to never feel anxious or to stop caring about doing things well. It's to feel less controlled by anxiety and perfectionism and more able to make choices from a place of clarity, self-trust, and connection.
Whether you experience chronic worry, perfectionism, people-pleasing, difficulty setting boundaries, overthinking, or a mind that rarely slows down, you don't have to navigate these patterns alone. Therapy offers a space to slow down, understand yourself more deeply, and develop ways of relating to yourself and others that feel more grounded and sustainable.
I offer anxiety and perfectionism therapy in Los Angeles and online throughout California, with a relational, somatic, attachment-focused, and trauma-informed approach tailored to your individual needs.
What Anxiety & Perfectionism
Therapy Looks Like
Anxiety and perfectionism can make life feel like an ongoing effort to anticipate, prevent, or control what might go wrong. Your mind may keep searching for answers, your inner critic may insist that you could have done more, or your body may stay tense even when there is no immediate danger. Therapy offers a space to understand these patterns without judging or fighting against them.
In our work together, we approach anxiety and perfectionism with curiosity rather than urgency to fix them. From a relational and attachment-focused perspective, we explore how your experiences, relationships, and environments may have shaped the ways you respond to uncertainty, mistakes, conflict, and your own needs. We consider not only what you're thinking, but what these patterns may be asking of you—and what they may have helped you navigate in the past.
Somatic work brings attention to how anxiety and self-pressure show up in your body. You may notice tension, restlessness, shallow breathing, difficulty settling, or a sense of always needing to be productive or prepared. By developing greater awareness of these sensations and learning to stay present with them, you can begin to recognize when your body is moving into a state of stress and develop more choice in how you respond.
I also draw from Internal Family Systems (IFS) parts work to explore the different parts of you that may strive, criticize, anticipate, please, or try to maintain control. Rather than treating these parts as problems, we approach them with compassion and curiosity, creating space to understand what they are protecting and what they may need.
Mindfulness can support this process by helping you notice thoughts and emotions without automatically following them. Instead of trying to eliminate uncertainty or achieve a state of constant calm, we work toward developing a different relationship with worry, self-criticism, and difficult emotions. The goal is not to stop caring or striving altogether, but to have greater flexibility in deciding when those responses are helpful and when they are keeping you stuck.
Whether you're struggling with perfectionism, social anxiety, chronic worry, people-pleasing, overthinking, or a harsh inner critic, therapy is an opportunity to slow down and understand the patterns beneath the pressure. Together, we work toward greater self-compassion, emotional flexibility, and trust in your own decisions and needs.
Over time, you may find that you can tolerate uncertainty without immediately needing to resolve it, make mistakes without turning against yourself, and rest without feeling that you've fallen behind. Anxiety and perfectionism may still arise, but they don't have to determine how you live. Therapy can help you develop more freedom, steadiness, and choice in how you move through your life and relationships.
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How Therapy For Anxiety Can Help
Anxiety and perfectionism can show up in many different ways. You may feel constantly on edge, spend hours overthinking decisions, hold yourself to impossible standards, or struggle to rest even when you know you need to. Together, we can explore the patterns that keep you feeling stuck and develop more flexible, compassionate ways of responding.
Therapy can support you with:
Chronic worry, overthinking, or racing thoughts
Perfectionism and an ongoing pressure to get things right
Harsh self-criticism or feeling like you’re never doing enough
People-pleasing and difficulty prioritizing your own needs
Second-guessing yourself or seeking reassurance from others
Difficulty tolerating uncertainty or feeling out of control
Fear of making mistakes, disappointing others, or being misunderstood
Social anxiety or self-consciousness in relationships and social situations
Difficulty setting boundaries because of guilt, worry, or fear of conflict
Feeling tense, restless, overwhelmed, or unable to fully relax
Overworking, overpreparing, or staying busy to manage anxiety
Avoidance of situations that bring up fear or discomfort
Difficulty sleeping because your mind won't slow down
Feeling disconnected from your own wants, needs, or sense of direction
Burnout and exhaustion from chronic self-pressure
These patterns are not signs that you are failing or doing life wrong. They often develop in response to experiences that taught you to stay alert, perform, anticipate, or adapt to others. Therapy can help you understand where these patterns come from while creating more space for choice, self-trust, and ease.
Through relational, somatic, attachment-focused, mindfulness-based, and IFS-informed work, we explore both the thoughts and body responses that shape your experience. Rather than trying to eliminate anxiety completely, we work toward feeling less controlled by it and more able to move through uncertainty, make decisions, rest, and connect with others from a grounded sense of self.
You don't have to stop caring or striving in order to feel better. The goal is to develop a more compassionate relationship with yourself—one where you can pursue what matters to you without constantly feeling that you have to prove your worth or get everything right.
These FAQs answer common questions about anxiety and perfectionism therapy and what you can expect from the process. If you’re wondering whether therapy is right for you, what sessions might look like, or how this work can help you relate differently to anxiety and self-pressure, you’re not alone. There’s no need to have everything figured out before you begin.
FAQS
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Self-help tools such as books, apps, mindfulness practices, and other coping strategies can be helpful, but therapy offers something different: a collaborative relationship where we can slow down and explore what is happening beneath the patterns.
Together, we look at how anxiety, perfectionism, and self-pressure show up in your thoughts, body, relationships, and everyday choices. A relational, somatic, attachment-focused, and IFS-informed approach allows us to understand these patterns in the context of your unique experiences rather than simply trying to manage symptoms on your own.
Therapy also gives you space to practice responding differently—with greater self-compassion, flexibility, and self-trust—while having someone alongside you to help make sense of what you’re experiencing.
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Anxiety doesn’t always have an obvious cause. Sometimes your mind or body responds to uncertainty, stress, or perceived threat before you’re consciously aware of what has triggered it. For some people, these responses are also shaped by earlier experiences, relationships, or patterns of needing to stay alert, prepared, or in control.
Together, we can become curious about what may be happening beneath the anxiety without assuming there has to be one specific explanation. By noticing your thoughts, body sensations, emotions, and relational patterns, you can begin to understand your experience with greater clarity and respond with more choice and self-compassion.
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Yes. Anxiety can affect the body as well as the mind, sometimes showing up as muscle tension, headaches, digestive discomfort, restlessness, or difficulty sleeping. In therapy, we can explore how stress and anxiety are showing up in your body and develop greater awareness of your physical and emotional responses.
Somatic practices can help you slow down, notice what your body is communicating, and develop ways of responding to stress with greater ease. We may also explore the thoughts, emotions, and relational patterns that contribute to ongoing stress and tension.
If you’re experiencing new, severe, or persistent physical symptoms, it’s also important to consult with a medical professional to rule out underlying medical causes.
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Not necessarily. Whether medication is helpful depends on your individual circumstances, preferences, symptoms, and treatment goals. Some people benefit from therapy alone, while others find that a combination of therapy and medication provides additional support.
If you’re considering medication or already take it, we can incorporate that into our work and, with your permission, collaborate with your prescribing provider as needed. My role is to support you in understanding your experience and finding an approach to care that feels appropriate for you.
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Everyone’s experience is different. Some people begin to notice changes in their awareness or relationship to anxiety within a few sessions, while others benefit from longer-term support as they work through deeper patterns.
Therapy is not only about reducing anxious feelings. It’s also about developing greater flexibility, self-compassion, and self-trust—so you can respond differently to worry, perfectionism, uncertainty, and self-criticism over time. We’ll move at a pace that feels appropriate for your needs and goals.
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I use an integrative, relational, somatic, attachment-focused, and trauma-informed approach, drawing from several complementary frameworks based on your individual needs:
Relational & attachment-focused therapy: exploring how your relationships, attachment experiences, and early relational patterns may shape anxiety, self-pressure, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and self-criticism
Internal Family Systems (IFS) parts work: approaching the parts of you that strive, criticize, anticipate, or protect with curiosity and compassion
Somatic therapy: noticing how anxiety and stress show up in your body and developing greater awareness of physical and emotional responses
Nervous system and stress-cycle work: learning about the body's stress response and exploring practices that support completion of stress responses, recovery, and greater flexibility
Mindfulness: cultivating awareness of thoughts, emotions, and sensations without automatically reacting to them
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Absolutely. Social anxiety and fear of judgment can make it difficult to feel at ease around others, speak openly, or trust yourself in social situations. In therapy, we explore the thoughts, body responses, and relational patterns that may contribute to these fears, including self-criticism and worries about how others perceive you.
Through relational, attachment-focused, somatic, and IFS-informed work, we can develop greater awareness of what happens when you feel exposed or judged and practice responding with more self-compassion and flexibility rather than automatically withdrawing, people-pleasing, or avoiding.
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If anxiety feels like it is taking up too much space in your life, you don’t have to figure it out alone. Therapy offers a space to slow down, understand the patterns beneath your anxiety, and develop greater choice in how you respond.
Together, we can explore the thoughts, emotions, body responses, and relational patterns that keep anxiety going. Over time, you may find it easier to tolerate uncertainty, make decisions, set boundaries, and stay connected to yourself even when anxiety arises.
The goal isn’t to control or eliminate anxiety. It’s to feel less defined or directed by it, with greater flexibility, self-trust, and freedom in how you move through your life.
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Panic attacks can be frightening and exhausting, especially when you’re worried about when the next one might happen. In therapy, we can explore what happens in your body and mind during panic and develop ways to respond with greater awareness and steadiness.
Somatic practices can help you become more familiar with the physical sensations of panic without immediately interpreting them as dangerous. We can also explore the thoughts, emotions, and protective patterns that may intensify fear, while building greater capacity to stay present when uncomfortable sensations arise.
Over time, therapy can help you feel less afraid of the sensations themselves and develop greater confidence in your ability to move through moments of panic when they occur.
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No. While conversation and reflection are an important part of therapy, our work can also include attention to your body, emotions, relationships, and internal experiences.
A somatic approach helps you notice how anxiety shows up in your body, while IFS-informed parts work can help you understand the protective patterns behind worry, perfectionism, people-pleasing, or self-criticism. Relational and attachment-focused work helps us explore how your experiences and relationships may have shaped these patterns, while mindfulness can support greater awareness of thoughts and emotions without automatically reacting to them.
The specific practices we use will depend on your needs and preferences. Therapy is collaborative and individualized—not a one-size-fits-all set of techniques.
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Yes. For some people, anxiety is connected to past experiences of trauma, chronic stress, or relational experiences that shaped how they respond to perceived threat and uncertainty. These experiences can continue to influence the body and mind even when the original circumstances are no longer present.
In therapy, we can explore the connection between your current anxiety and past experiences while staying grounded in the present. Somatic and trauma-informed approaches can help you notice how these experiences show up in your body, while relational, attachment-focused, and IFS-informed work can help you understand the patterns that developed around them.
We don't need to assume that every anxious response comes from trauma, and you don't need to have a specific traumatic memory to benefit from this work. Together, we focus on understanding your experience and developing greater choice, self-trust, and flexibility in how you respond.
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Absolutely. Therapy is a collaborative process, and the goal is for you to develop tools and understanding that you can carry into your everyday life. Alongside exploring the patterns beneath your anxiety and perfectionism, we’ll practice ways to notice anxious thoughts, respond to body sensations, navigate stress, and create more space between a feeling and your reaction to it.
Over time, you can build greater confidence in your ability to meet anxiety when it arises rather than feeling like you need to eliminate it or control every uncomfortable feeling. The skills we develop together are tailored to your needs and become resources you can draw on outside of therapy.